Male strippers have it tough when it comes to dating. Many women do not want to date male strippers simply because the men are exposed to hundreds of women every weekend. However, just as in life, there are dancers who are loyal and then there are those who are downright dogs. So how does one screen for a nice loyal male stripper to date? Well here are a few clues.
Does he come home at night?
If you just exchanged numbers with a male stripper and you two begin dating, check to see what time he gets home at night. You don’t need to follow him around 24/7 but simply text him to see where he is. If he’s constantly out partying then that’s a bad sign. He’s probably hanging out with the girls that he met at the male strip club and looking for other options. However, if he responds to your text and you know he usually comes home after work then it’s a good sign. The things that male strippers choose to do after work says a lot about how serious they are when it comes to relationships. Temptation is always there to exchange numbers with a different girl but at the end of the day, if he’s loyal then he will be open and honest about his whereabouts. Some of them might actually be working late and making a lot of money. However it all boils down to what your gut is telling you.
Does he respond to your messages?
If he doesn’t even respond to your messages then forget it. He probably exchanged numbers with you and then either forgot who you were or has other options on the side. Don’t take it personally but just move on. If a dancer likes you then he will take the time and effort to respond to all of your messages. Otherwise if he’s a playboy then he’ll probably ignore you and just text you back whenever he wants. Girls tend to prefer the latter since it offers them a challenge. If something is too easy to get, then nobody wants it. However, be prepared for an emotional roller coaster and don’t complain if he’s not as into you as you want him to be.
What does he do during his free time?
Male strippers tend to work Friday and Saturday nights and typically have Sundays to Thursdays off. Some of them work as personal trainers or models during the week but usually they have more free time during the week than they do on the weekends. As a result, it’s pretty easy to find out what they do during their free time. If he’s giving you vague answers then there’s a good chance he’s seeing other women. If he’s very specific about his whereabouts then you can breathe a sigh of relief. However please note that some of the biggest players are extremely smooth when it comes to covering their tracks. They have excuses for everything and may even have old screenshots and photos to disguise their whereabouts. Just like it is when it comes to dating anybody, trust your gut and if you think he’s cheating then he probably is.
Are all male strippers dogs?
The answer is no. There are dancers who have been in faithful relationships throughout their entire dancing career and then there are those who will sleep with anyone over 18 with a pulse. At the end of the day, male strippers are just guys and there are usually three types of guys. There are the relationship guys, the players and everyone else in-between.
The relationship type
The relationship type of male stripper will always look for someone to settle down with. They are not into one night stands nor are they into random hookups. It’s either they settle down and are married to the woman they are dating or they are single.
Male strippers have a bad stigma and are known as players. The truth is some of them are because they meet new women every weekend and they are supposed to be good-looking enough that the women are chasing them. It is not surprising to meet a male exotic dancer who exchanges number with new women every weekend. However, usually talking to them will give the woman an idea if he is a player or not.
Everyone else in-between
Finally there are male exotic dancers who are not at either end of the spectrum but are open to serious relationships but will also sleep with whoever will want to sleep with them. These are the guys who want to keep their options open and drive women crazy. They say they want long term relationships but they never commit. They know that there is always an opportunity to meet someone better and as a result, they keep their options open. It’s neither right nor wrong but it usually comes down to how this person communicates with their partner on what their intentions are in a relationship. If you think you are dating one of these, then sit him down and have an honest open heart to heart talk about your expectations and where he stands. If he’s not on the same page as you, then move on.
Dating is hard enough, dating a male stripper is even harder. It is not impossible because many of them do want to find that special someone. However, they are exposed to more females every weekend than your average male and as a result, will be more open to temptation. Decide whether you are emotionally available to date a male stripper and do not be surprised if you end up in an emotional roller coaster.